The Cheating Husband
When talking infidelity everybody defaults to the phrase ‘cheating partner‘. In this article we examine what the phrase really means and what the implications are of this common phenomenon. Cheating Husband. These two simple words belie the huge impact infidelity can have on a marriage. Often it is not just the act which causes the most anguish because we are only human or so the saying goes. People do make mistakes or find themselves in difficult situations. However those situations are very rare.
Take a quick peek in the columns of magazines and papers. There you will find the problem of betraying husbands popping up in a number of guises from agonised letters to literary Aunts to fictional tales and not so fictional editorials. Sometimes the cause of anxiety seems to lie in simple jealousy which breeds suspicion. Suspicion breeds distrust. Distrust breeds attitude change. Attitude change breeds behavioural change. The latter may actually result in a partner pushing their husband into the arms of someone else as a result. How do we know this? Ask your husband. There are very few who are not willing to come up with a list of reasons for their infidelity or as some would say excuse after excuse. The truth is that in the majority of cases the betraying partner has not been forced into infidelity. They have walked into it willingly and will construct a fortress of circumstance in order to build a protective layer over their misdemeanours.
Expected Excuses of a Cheat
Many husbands will even try to involve their friends by putting their case of right and wrong in an attempt to validate their choice of behaviour i.e their deceiving ways. In so doing they may also be putting their wives or partners at risk of being preyed upon by said friends who may see opportunity for themselves whilst their male friend is distracted elsewhere.
The Nature of a Cheating Husband
Being a betraying spouse goes against all intentions of nature because the Homosapien male is subject to the same laws of survival as animals living in the wilds of the world. To put it simply the distracted male is unable to protect and care for his own turf or home. For example a lion will protect their partners from marauding males but cannot do so when he is covering a female. Therein lies the real and hidden crime of a cheating husband. They place their partner at risk from other quarters from those who might be only too willing to comfort a distressed female either with lascivious intentions or simply to enjoy the distress of another person because it makes them feel better about their own life.
The cheating spouse often does not foresee further implications of their infidelity on social circles. Friendships also come under extreme pressure and very few survive a marital split. The cheating husband causes metaphorical earthquakes and landslides within the safe world they have built around themselves and eventually become a victim of their own behaviour. Very few extramarital affairs end in the cheating husband achieving long term happiness. The answer is not to cheat but to behave intelligently and address marital issues calmly and kindly. It is that easy.